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Mijn boek<\/p>

De zin en onzin van zijn<\/em><\/h1>

Waarom we verbinding verliezen. En hoe we haar terugvinden.<\/p>

Over waarneming, aanwezigheid en de manier waarop we verschijnen \u2014 persoonlijke ervaring verweven met moderne neurowetenschap en eeuwenoude wijsheid uit onder meer boeddhisme, soefisme en christelijke mystiek.<\/p>Zet je op de wachtlijst \u2192<\/a>Verschijnt 24 augustus 2026 bij uitgeverij Invicti<\/span><\/div>

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What it is about<\/p>\n

We do not see what is there.
We see what we are able to receive<\/em>.<\/h2>\n

Why do we sometimes feel disconnected from ourselves, even when nothing is ostensibly missing? Why do conversations become strained, relationships superficial, and why does even success not always bring what we hoped for? <\/p>\n

Perhaps we haven't so much lost connection with the world around us, but with the way in which we meet it.<\/p>\n

What we perceive is colored by the state from which we perceive\u2014by experiences, beliefs, and the condition of our nervous system. If that way of perceiving changes, then the relationship with ourselves, with others, and with life changes as well. <\/p>\n

The book follows the six senses\u2014seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling, and emotional awareness\u2014not as biological functions, but as gateways to a deeper quality of presence. Not an encyclopedia, but a spiral that turns ever deeper toward the same core. <\/p>\n <\/div>\n<\/section>\n\n.ss-overgaat{\n --ss-primary:#2a6b6b; \/* Primary & link *\/\n --ss-ink:#1e1e2a; \/* Body text *\/\n --ss-soft:#52525e; \/* Text soft *\/\n --ss-warm:#f0ebe3; \/* Warme achtergrond *\/\n --ss-max:1120px;\n --ss-pad:clamp(20px,5vw,64px);\n --ss-ui:'Source Sans 3','Karla','Helvetica Neue',Arial,sans-serif;\n}\nsection.ss-overgaat{\n background:var(--ss-warm) !important;\n padding:clamp(56px,9vw,110px) max(var(--ss-pad),calc((100% - var(--ss-max))\/2)) !important;\n margin:0 !important;\n box-sizing:border-box;\n}\n.ss-overgaat *,.ss-overgaat *::before,.ss-overgaat *::after{box-sizing:border-box}\n.ss-overgaat__inner{max-width:880px}\n\/* Kicker \u2014 identiek aan alle secties *\/\n.ss-overgaat .ss-overgaat__kicker{\n font-family:var(--ss-ui) !important;\n font-size:12.5px !important;\n font-weight:500 !important;\n letter-spacing:.22em !important;\n text-transform:uppercase !important;\n line-height:1.5 !important;\n color:var(--ss-primary) !important;\n margin:0 0 22px !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n\/* Kop \u2014 met signatuurwoord *\/\n.ss-overgaat .ss-overgaat__title{\n font-size:clamp(28px,3.6vw,42px) !important;\n line-height:1.14 !important;\n font-weight:600 !important;\n letter-spacing:.005em !important;\n text-transform:none !important;\n color:var(--ss-ink) !important;\n margin:0 0 20px !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n.ss-overgaat .ss-overgaat__title em{color:var(--ss-primary) !important;font-style:italic}\n\/* Lopende tekst *\/\n.ss-overgaat .ss-overgaat__p{\n font-size:17px !important;\n line-height:1.8 !important;\n color:var(--ss-ink) !important;\n max-width:62ch;\n margin:0 !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n.ss-overgaat .ss-overgaat__p + .ss-overgaat__p{margin-top:1.15em !important}\n\/* ---------- responsief ---------- *\/\n@media(max-width:900px){\n \/* Onder 900px is er geen ruimte voor de gedwongen tweeslag \u2014\n de regelval mag dan zelf bepalen waar hij breekt. *\/\n .ss-overgaat .ss-overgaat__title br{display:none}\n}\n@media(max-width:700px){\n section.ss-overgaat{padding-top:48px !important;padding-bottom:48px !important}\n}\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>

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Eight chapters<\/p>\n

From sense to insight<\/h2>\n <\/div>\n\n
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  1. \n 1<\/span>\n
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    Eye consciousness \u00b7 Seeing as self-recognition<\/span><\/p>\n

    How what we perceive is colored by the state from which we look.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

  2. \n 2<\/span>\n
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    Ear consciousness \u00b7 Listening beyond words<\/span><\/p>\n

    Hearing what is truly being said\u2014and what is not.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

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    Nose consciousness \u00b7 The sense without a filter<\/span><\/p>\n

    Scent as a direct entry to memory\u2014the sense that arrives the fastest and reaches the deepest.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

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    Tongue consciousness \u00b7 Tasting as an exercise in presence<\/span><\/p>\n

    What becomes possible when consumption makes way for receiving.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

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    Physical awareness \u00b7 The body as a living archive<\/span><\/p>\n

    The instrument of knowing that the mind often no longer hears.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

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    Emotional awareness \u00b7 The inner landscape<\/span><\/p>\n

    Emotion as a compass, not a disturbance.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

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    The unity of one \u00b7 The vehicle through which you perceive<\/span><\/p>\n

    The nervous system as a mirror, the six realms as a landscape, and the elevation of perspective that connects everything.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n

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    You are how you perceive \u00b7 The question that brings everything together<\/span><\/p>\n

    Not what we see, but the state from which we look.<\/p>\n <\/div>\n <\/li>\n <\/ol>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n<\/section>\n\n\n.ss-hoofdstukken{\n --ss-primary:#2a6b6b; \/* Primary & link *\/\n --ss-ink:#1e1e2a; \/* Body text *\/\n --ss-soft:#52525e; \/* Text soft *\/\n --ss-bg:#faf8f4; \/* Body background *\/\n --ss-line:#ddd5ca; \/* Border\/divider *\/\n --ss-max:1120px;\n --ss-pad:clamp(20px,5vw,64px);\n --ss-ui:'Source Sans 3','Karla','Helvetica Neue',Arial,sans-serif;\n}\nsection.ss-hoofdstukken{\n background:var(--ss-bg) !important;\n padding:clamp(56px,9vw,110px) max(var(--ss-pad),calc((100% - var(--ss-max))\/2)) !important;\n margin:0 !important;\n box-sizing:border-box;\n}\n.ss-hoofdstukken *,.ss-hoofdstukken *::before,.ss-hoofdstukken *::after{box-sizing:border-box}\n\n\/* Tweekoloms \u2014 kop links smal, lijst rechts ruim (patroon van .ss-detail) *\/\n.ss-hoofdstukken__grid{\n display:grid;\n grid-template-columns:minmax(0,.85fr) minmax(0,1.4fr);\n gap:clamp(28px,4vw,64px);\n align-items:start;\n}\n\n\/* Kicker \u2014 identiek aan alle secties *\/\n.ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__kicker{\n font-family:var(--ss-ui) !important;\n font-size:12.5px !important;\n font-weight:500 !important;\n letter-spacing:.22em !important;\n text-transform:uppercase !important;\n line-height:1.5 !important;\n color:var(--ss-primary) !important;\n margin:0 0 18px !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n\n\/* Kop *\/\n.ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__title{\n font-size:clamp(26px,3.2vw,38px) !important;\n line-height:1.16 !important;\n font-weight:600 !important;\n letter-spacing:.005em !important;\n text-transform:none !important;\n color:var(--ss-ink) !important;\n margin:0 !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n\n\/* De hoofdstukkenlijst *\/\n.ss-hoofdstukken__list{\n list-style:none !important;\n margin:0 !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n border-top:1px solid var(--ss-line);\n}\n.ss-hoofdstukken__row{\n display:flex;\n gap:clamp(16px,3vw,28px);\n align-items:baseline;\n padding:18px 0 !important;\n margin:0 !important;\n border-bottom:1px solid var(--ss-line);\n}\n.ss-hoofdstukken__row::marker{content:\"\"}\n.ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__n{\n flex:0 0 26px;\n font-family:'Lora',Georgia,serif;\n font-size:15px !important;\n color:var(--ss-primary) !important;\n}\n.ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__naam{\n font-family:'Lora',Georgia,serif;\n font-size:19px !important;\n line-height:1.4 !important;\n font-weight:500 !important;\n color:var(--ss-ink) !important;\n margin:0 0 4px !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n.ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__sub{\n font-family:var(--ss-ui) !important;\n font-size:12px !important;\n font-weight:500 !important;\n letter-spacing:.14em !important;\n text-transform:uppercase !important;\n color:var(--ss-soft) !important;\n white-space:nowrap;\n}\n.ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__p{\n font-size:15.5px !important;\n line-height:1.7 !important;\n color:var(--ss-soft) !important;\n max-width:62ch;\n margin:0 !important;\n padding:0 !important;\n}\n\n\/* ---------- responsief ---------- *\/\n\/* Ondertitels mogen eerder afbreken: in de smallere rechterkolom\n duwt \"Proeven als oefening in aanwezigheid\" anders uit het blok. *\/\n@media(max-width:1000px){\n .ss-hoofdstukken .ss-hoofdstukken__sub{display:block;white-space:normal;margin-top:2px}\n}\n@media(max-width:900px){\n .ss-hoofdstukken__grid{grid-template-columns:1fr;gap:28px}\n}\n@media(max-width:700px){\n section.ss-hoofdstukken{padding-top:48px !important;padding-bottom:48px !important}\n}\n<\/div><\/div><\/div><\/div>

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    From the foreword<\/p>\n

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    \u201cI promise that there is a deeper insight or a new level of consciousness to be discovered, even if it is subtle. It is precisely in those subtleties that the most important messages often reside.\u201d<\/p>\n

    \u201cWhat Steven offers is not a technique. He expands our powers of perception.\u201d<\/p>\n